How “Funny” fixes performance reviews
Adam Christing shares how positive humour can make performance reviews less stressful and more effective.
In many companies, performance reviews are stressful for both employees and managers. But they don’t have to be. A growing body of research shows that one overlooked soft skill can transform these conversations: humour. Done right, positive, affirming humour breaks tension, builds connection, and makes colleagues more open to feedback.
Nikki Sneed, a strategist with RevPartners (RP), said: “I’ve always made it a point to try to laugh with my partners at RP. If people feel comfortable enough to laugh with you, they’ll feel much more comfortable taking your suggestions and strategy.”
Laughter isn’t a gimmick. It’s a leadership tool that can repair the old model of critique-based reviews. When managers use laughter with intention, it helps turn dreaded reviews into authentic growth conversations. Warning: not all types of humour work in this setting! Sarcasm or insulting humor can backfire. Remember the “golden rule” of positive laughter: “If in doubt…leave it out.” The goal is laughing with, not at your people.
Learn Their “Laugh Languages”
In my book, The Laughter Factor, I outline five ways of creating fun:
Surprise! – Delight people with the power of the unexpected.
Poke – Make fun of yourself and gently tease others.
In-Jokes – Discover the laughter in shared experiences.
Wordplay – Use witty language and clever banter.
Amplify – Exaggerate stories and situations for impact.
When you match your humour style to theirs, the feedback lands softer and the connection deepens.
3 Ways To Add Lightness To Performance Reviews
First, open with warmth. Start reviews with something positive or funny about a
mutual interest. It eases anxiety and signals partnership.
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